How to live happy life ?

Hello again.

Today we will discover the secret of all time andwe will answer the question: How to be a happy person?

Of course, everyone likes to complicate simple matters, so as usual, I simplify everything. I will present to you this uncomplicated thought in points. So let's get started.

Number one - always do only what you want.

I will immediately anticipate any questions about the morality of this statement. I am addressing everything I say to people who are mentally healthy and not those who, for example, want to blow up Parliament. Yes, I only tick for the rule :). So we have to make sure that in our lives we do what we want and absolutely do not do what we do not want. Simple right? So if I don't want to go to work every morning because I hate it, what should I do? You have to change job. If I meet with some people just because it falls out, then I stop meeting them, because it falls out to live my life the best and not to bother at every step satisfying the needs of everyone and everyone. If I am with my husband just because in 20 years he dies, I will get all of his properties and money, then I have to go to work and stop being dependent on my husband. You must slowly, in very small steps remove the reasons why I can not live as I want. If I don't have enough resources to leave my husband, I have to collect all these resources from scratch. If I can't change my job because I don't have enough skills to get another job, then we start with that. There is nothing to moan your whole life and blame everything and everyone. If I want to eat food from a well-known fast food every day and watch series all day, then I should do it. After a while I will look in the mirror and I will definitely want to go to the gym. And then I will do what I want. So the rule number one, we do only what we want.

Number two - we always build all relationships on our own terms.

So if we are an adult 35-year-old woman and our mother tells us how to live, or why we don't have a husband yet, or why we have that one and what the crap at home, and who we are, we ask ourselves one simple question - do I want to listen to this? If not, and probably nobody in their right mind will not be happy to hear this, what are we doing? We say mommy - mommy I love you very much, but from now on you won't be calling me that way. We will not talk about these topics at all, otherwise we will have to limit contact, does my lovely mother understand me? Mum will say: how dare you talk to your mother like that and who did I raise? What kind of daughter are you? Then we hang up immediatly saying that we have something important to do. Mummy will call next time and start lamenting, we say sorry mum but I have a bus. We will behave this way several times and the mother will understand that she will either stop acting like this or she will not have a family. And so you should do it with everyone and in every situation. And do not think what your neighbor Ben will think or how I look in other people's eyes. First of all, it's not our business and secondly, we can worry about everyone around and try to dance as the orchestra plays, but this is OUR LIFE. . And besides, by agreeing to such treatment we don't make anyone happy, just the opposite. We are adults and mother no longer has power over us. So we never agree with disrespect and humiliation. Goodbye. If we meet a man and he drinks occasionally every day, then you should not fantasize about how you will change him into an abstinente. We see the man as he is and either we take him or not. Or someone doesn't have time for us. We say that once, listen darling, it doesn't suit me and I have a need to see you more often. And when darling doesn't care, we say goodbye. Otherwise, we will moan again, complain to friends who will have enough of us and ask passers-by on the street what to do with our darling. Doing that will never make us happy.

Number three - we always remember that we have the steering wheel from our lives. 

If we like to blame everyone for everything, we can immediately stop reading it and return to our sad world under the title '' I like when it rains because then you can't see my tears ''. Seriously, we understand that no matter what our childhood was, what our uncle did to us drunk, or how dad spoke to us and whether my mother went to Bahamas with a fitness trainer, now I am an adult and I choose and I decide. Of course, it's great to redo everything and understand where it all comes from, but we don't poke at it. It will not help, now it is now and we decide, not uncle Frank. I really know what I'm saying, trust me. Understand that everything that happens in your life is the result of your decision. And the sooner you understand it, the sooner you predict success. And we always address the question and the grievances to ourselves. We always ask the question what I did wrong, what I could do differently. It's not about guilt, it's just to stop blaming everyone for our failures. Okay, my husband drinks and doesn't pay bills. Why waste time blaming my husband? First of all, it is MY husband, so I chose him. Secondly, it might be better to start doing something about it and leave all this junk behind. Think about your mistakes and bad choices and that's how we go forward. There is no other way. Unless it's down, but no one consciously wants to roll to the bottom. We also put the steering wheel inside our car.

Number four - we find our life calling.

Something that most people have a problem with. Everyone thinks it must be so obvious. That I must be an opera singer or dance in a musical. First of all, everyone has something that he loves or at least likes to do. Only usually we do not combine it with passion and do not notice it at all. Because someone likes to make dumplings. What is this passion, right? Well, it is beautiful and you can certainly make a living from it. In general, everything we love to do, we will do with passion and hence, we will do well. And we will earn on it. But it's hard to believe in yourself. But you have to find it and start doing it. It doesn't matter what age you are. No matter where do you start. It is important that doing that will makes us happy and we will enjoy it. For example, I recently found another calling and something that gives me terrible pleasure and if it wasn't for the fact that I already have a million other such things, I would definitely take care of it. And I guarantee you that it's nothing obvious. You also need to learn to watch yourself and notice when your heart beats faster when you do something. Don't think that you have no talent at all and you can't do anything.

At the end of my mess today, I recommend starting from at least one point and putting it into practice and you will see what magic will start happening around you :)