Suck tips ...

... of how to quickly blow up a good relationship. As usual, life itself brings the best inspirations, which is why I come to you with another handful of useful information today. And in this topic I am an expert, please trust me too.

Today we will talk about how to quickly and successfully bring your relationship to ruin. I will describe a few basic mistakes that I think we often make, not knowing how tragic it can turn out to be.

Many people have a lush life when they are single. Or at least some life. They have some work, friends, interests, hobbies - we know what's going on. They are doing something for themselves, they have some goals, some important matters for them. However, when a prince rushing on his white steed appears on the horizon, then these people recognize that now life is complete and our journey has ended. So the first mistake is to put your partner in a position - the only goal and meaning in my life. Well, we already have what we have dreamed of all our lives, so you can end the pursuit of life resources and finally breathe, right? Well no.

When we fall into a relationship and slowly cut off our various activities, friends, other relationships, then the following happens. We transfer responsibility for our live to our partner. And we disconnect all power plugs. Now he is the center of the universe, and electricity flows from only one source. So he must provide us with happiness, entertainment, fun, laughter, emotions, etc. First of all, it is very burdensome for the second person, who, of course, sooner or later will feel this luggage on his back. Secondly, we lose ourselves and this means that we do not contribute anything to the relationship. So we become egoists who just stand with their paws outstretched. It is often said that the mistake is that, being in a relationship for some time, we are too sure that we will stay in it and stop putting effort. I can agree with this statement, but not completely. We stop growing, that is, we start to be boring. And even Salomon does not pour from empty. Since we do nothing, we do not pose any challenges, we do not experience anything, we have no experience, and in addition we put more and more stones into our partner's backpack, it also means that we cease to bring value to the relationship. And no matter that we cook dinners, clean and play organ concerts for our beloved. As long as we focus on him and only him, he will stop having the pleasure of being with us. And sometimes slowly and sometimes very quickly he begins to retreat. No love will help here. Imagine having someone at home who has no purpose at all but to be with you. This person is starting to bore you. You don't feel any excitement in contact with her, you no longer feel interest. And it will kill every love. Or at most there will be a different one on the side from spending time pleasantly and at home there will always be delicious meal on the table.

If the situation does not change, and the person concerned does not shake off his lethargy, this leads to another mistake. To prison and slavery. Everyone, even if they do not have contact with themselves and their emotions, feel when someone distances themselves. It feels at the cellular level and the whole body shakes with fear. And words are not needed here. You just know it. And here is another opportunity to change your behavior. If a man comes to his senses in time, then there is a chance to fix it all. However, if he doesn't, he begins to be afraid. Afraid of rejection. Such a person feels that the partner is withdrawing, he is absent, without energy. And the reaction to this fear is usually control. He begins to push his partner into prison, very slowly and very subtly. Soon the partner will not look back and stop having his life. There will be fights when he wants to do something for himself. The claims will start. Hysteria. Cry. Guilt (I give you so much, I sacrifice myself for you, I am always available to you and you?). If such a person stopped for a moment and thought - in total why this man should want to be with me and spend time, since I have nothing to give him - then he could play it wisely. But most often, first there must be some shock like betrayal, separation, so that man wants to change. It is often too late to save then. So for now he knows the only method to get rid of discomfort caused by distance - control. And he tries to bring his partner to the same level, that is, that she does not have the best of anything else in life. And then she will be afraid to leave. A lot of people live in such relationships for years. So for some reason they like it, but I think it is not a healthy situation for either party.

Another thing (and I'm addressing women rather here) is being a mommy for my partner. Watching if he ate, took medicine, set the alarm clock, went to the doctor and so on. First of all it seems to me (I'm not a man but I feel so) that it completely cuts the guy's balls. Well, he is a grown man, and here someone treats him as if he were at least retarded. Does he not know when to eat? I don't think you need to take the steering wheel from an adult man. If he doesn't get up to work, he won't go to work, get reprimanded from the boss or not, and next time he will watch to get up on time. And if he doesn't, he'll be fired. And if he doesn't look for another job then, we know that this man doesn't really like working and earning and then we can decide what to do. But playing in mommy in my opinion and in my experience is to save ourselves from seeing a man as he is because we are afraid that if he is not what we want, we will not be able to part. So we stay in safe, illusory control and we don't have to do the work of ourselves. Also, if we become a mom, then let's think about which healthy person wants to sleep and have sex with his own mother? Apart from Oedipus, I don't know any. So we can also say goodbye to lust.

In addition to being a mom, the reverse of this phenomenon can also be helpful in breaking relationships. So being a tiny clumsy child and putting the partner again as a parent. That is, behaving like a small child who is afraid of everything, is a victim and expects constant support in every matter and every situation. Some think it's so sweet. Of course, a woman is a woman, she will not bring a wardrobe to the 4th floor and the man will manage. Women are usually weaker than men and I think men like it. But we are talking about extremes here. So an adult woman may seem, she expects that the guy will be with her 24 hours a day and help her in every little problem. Even if he has his problems, his difficult situations, worries. No matter, he is on guard at all times. I liked to do so, I particularly liked to use such manipulation when my guy didn't answer, I said - you don't answer, I can't count on you, WHAT IF SOMETHING BAD WILL HAPPEN TO ME?!?!?!. As you can guess, we're not together anymore :D. So a person who objectively can cope with a situation, but runs straight to his partner crying  BUT WHAT I HAVE TO DO, for sure is on his way to break up his relationship. Of course, there are difficult situations when we really need support and then it would be nice if the partner was for us. But if it looks like we can't almost shit without him, it is worth considering.

I have listed only a few mistakes that we make in relationships. However, I know that some people don't like reading novels, that's why we end today. I wish you the best relationships, happy and wish you not to make mistakes to protect yourself from unnecessary suffering.