Why you shouldn't be a leaky bag?

Hi all of my beautiful friends.

I haven't been here for a long time and it means that life flows nice and pleasant if I don't have time to write stupid things.

But.

Recently, I was inspired by a person I know to write this post. This person won't read it, because some people don't want to grow. They will moan, complain and feel sorry for themselves, but to make an effort to hard work on themselves, they are not interested. So if so, I think that everything suits them as it is. Even if life is hopeless, but it can be endured.

Back to the topic. How to have high self-esteem and love yourself? How to become strong and independent which means happy? How to learn not to waste your energy sending it everywhere and stabilize your psyche?

First of all, stop being a leaky bag from which all deeds, emotions and even thoughts spill out. We should begin to understand that our "very important matters" are only so important for us. And you don't have to honor other people with them, even very important ones. When someone does not respond to the hundredth message from us, when he politely asks us to leave through the door, what do we do? We do not give up, we continue to write messages and try to get inside through the window, finishing the remains of doubtful self-respect and even more doubtful interest in knowing us? No.

We sense where and when the interest in us ends and we either try to fix it if we care about the relationship, or we finally shut up and turn towards ourselves. How to improve this situation, where we have already made a lot of mistakes and now we see, that we are not welcome there anymore?

First of all - we have to grow up. We have to stop seeing other people as our mum, and stop running towards her showing her our beautiful poop. Secondly - we have to stop being selfish. And we begin to think - what valuable can I give to this person? What pleasure does she/he has from being around or talking to me? We stop pulling our hands toward her and focus on her. Of course, some people think that their snot is interesting enough that everyone will run in jumps to watch it. And listen to another fascinating story about how life is unfair. And it will be more and more unfair if you don't stop looking from side to side instead of yourself. The question that every human should ask himself is: what am I doing that makes my life look like this? Do not complain about others, how everyone cheats, exploits, and what a bad party and what a bad government and what neighbors. Questions and claims should only be to yourself. No, why the boss is using me, but why I let it. Why can't I set boundaries? Why don't I change my job. Why am I afraid of the boss? How pathetic looks an adult person who instead of waking up, still moans and moans and still thinks that someone wants to listen to it.

Believe me, there are people who are being respected by everyone, from the spouse to the man opening the door for them in the hotel. Is this some magic? Abracadabra? No, it's just being responsible for yourself, directing questions and grievances to yourself and man exudes such an energy, that no one dares to not respect him. So I repeat again - we direct everything inside.

Believe me, nobody really cares about our lives, our affairs and problems. And if anyone is interested, he will ask you, I guarantee. And if someone does not ask me what's going on and I come and tell stories, it is as if I brought someone a bag of rubbish to someone's home and started pouring content on the carpet in the living room. And I will not worry about the fact that the owner of the house just bought a new Persian rug, I do not care. I'm having a great time. And then I'm surprised why someone ignores me, why someone doesn't answer or doesn't really want to have contact with me. So you don't have to be surprised just to reflect.

People I'm talking about have one more feature. They come to us for help. And we give them this help in the form of various materials, trainings, books and what else. We give it because we know that it is hard to work on ourselves and if we have any way we want to share. But for such a parasite is not enough! He won't put work into doing something with him. He is not going to waste time, money or energy. He will come to us for ready answer to his every question, every problem. And he will also blame us for not wanting to devote our time to his vomit. After all, of course, we certainly don't have anything cooler or better to do, except to share your hard-earned resources, with someone who doesn't even want to move a finger to do something by himself. And that's why such people have to be left alone. They will eventually fall to the bottom, realize that they are under the table and collect crumbs from the floor and then they will immediately want to change. And work. You don't have to feel any remorse for doing so. Absolutely none.

If someone works on himself, develops, practices all these skills and asks for help is a completely different matter. Then you want to help him, you want to talk to him, you can share your thoughts and this conversations brings something good, it has some value for both sides. But if someone still comes to us for alms, for advice, for energy, you need to close the borders and doors in front of them, because before you will realise, you will start loosing your energy, motivation and all that.

Greetings to all beggars and I hope that the message arrived :).