Before you die, make sure you have lived.

... or how to recognize what the author meant.

The wise book says - '' by their fruits you will know. '' It is worth remembering and more importantly, it is worth implementing it. 1/3 of the problems will solve itself.

In a perfect world, all people would be crystal clear and open to us like a clam in a shell. In an ideal world, everyone would tell us directly about their feelings and intentions. Then of course we would know their intentions and there would be no understatement. BUT. The world does not look like that. Most people will not tell us directly. This is due to the fact that most often they are afraid that we will think about them badly, they can lose a lot, they are afraid to hurt us, they want to get something for themselves, they want to look nice in the eyes of others. Despite this, it is possible to understand the intentions of other people and their intensions towards us very clearly. First, stop listening to what they are saying. Secondly, you should start looking at their actions. And everything will be clear and legible.

Reality is usually much more simple and uncomplicated than we think. If we stop hiding behind illusions, we will listen ouselves and we will not invent stories that are simply not there, we are saved :)

If we are beginning to wonder if anyone cares about us, then most likely this is the answer itself. Because, if someone cares for us, such questions and dilemmas will not arise. If someone does not propose anything specific to us, he does not propose meetings, he does not take any steps towards us,but strongly assures us how much he loves or adrores us, it is not necessary to listen to it. Writers are talented and let them write fairy tales for them. However, people around us can also have very vivid imaginations and tell us the tales of a thousand and one nights. But it must be treated as a story, a fairy tale. Not as truth. It is not necessary to think that someone is shy, has a broken heart and is afraid. Maybe, but it's not a matter for us to analyze. Our analysis should only be subject to whether words coincide with deeds. If not, we already know what's going on. If someone holds us as an emergency exit, then of course he will tell us all the beautiful words that we would like to hear. You don't have to listen to it. Understand - if someone doesn't write to us, they don't want to. Simple as that. If someone does not try to meet us, does not ask us questions, it means that he is not interested in getting to know us. When two people are involved, relationships are relaxed, without stress, without analysis. It's nice and pleasant. My beloved woman says: "if something seems to us, it usually does not seem to us." Worth remembering. And even if we notice a lack of convergence in deeds and words, you do not need to jump higher and higher to interest someone. Never put anyone above you. We simply do not waste time on such rubbish and go further.

I will give a few real-life examples, I have been talking a lot to people about this topic lately and I will simply cite several situations so that you can understand the message better :)

The guy meets the woman and suddenly she says that she will be busy soon because she has projects to do. She stops meeting and doesn't reply. The boy immediately comes up with a great idea to help her because such a poor cluttered with duties. The more he offers help, the more she disappears and does not respond. And the boy asks why she won't simply tell him that she is bored or not want to see him. And that holds him to her and he can't unhook. Because she didn't say. Well, she won't say :)

The woman meets the guy in a sex only relationship. Only she can't see it's sex only. She thinks she's in a relationship. The guy, when they see each other, tells her that he loves her, showers her with compliments, tells her that they are in a relationship, that he misses meetings, tells them what big plans he has for her. Only that between the meetings at her bedroom, he has no time to meet. He is such a loner that he needs to be alone. He doesn't need to go out on dates. He doesn't need to invite her to meet with friends. Of course he finds very objective reasons, so as they say, he gets dry out of the water. She has nothing to attach to. But she feels something is wrong. When asked why she keeps this relationship, she says that he loves her and he is simply a very individualist and she has to be patient. She has been waiting for 8 months. And if it wasn't for telling stupid stories, this story would have ended long ago. She will end up negatively for her anyway. But she could end it now, this circus.

The guy meets a girl on a dating site. They talk very well, they can't sleep at night. Everything is great, and the girl is beautiful. After a few weeks, it's time to transfer your relationship to the real world. They make an appointment, he wags his tail from the very morning. An hour before the meeting, she cancels it. Unfortunately, she has to take her sister to the hospital, emergency situation. Well, anything can happen, right? They make an appointment for the next week. And as you guess, this time the day before she cancels again. Of course, giving a reason that is not subject to discussion. And so another 6 times. The boy sits and understands nothing, worries, wants to help. Still, of course, telephone correspondence at a high level of intensity. When asked why he won't block this girl, he says that it's not her fault, they are still talking so she definitely cares, she is just unlucky, they still fail, but when they finally meet, it will be a happy end. Only he doesn't know that they will never meet.

And such examples can be multiplied indefinitely. I hope that you do not act in this way, because life in itself already brings us enough worries to add them ourselves at our own request.

Greetings to everyone!

There is a famous saying that says, "Treat others as you would like to be treated." It sounds very noble and by doing so we can even feel that we are very good people and such generous. And that we are Mother Teresa of Calcutta, because someone throws stones at us and we answer with an open heart and a friendly smile. Today we will look at why this saying is pointless and how it can be ended by following it. And you can end up as a martyr. Also, start a pipe or whatever you smoke and let's get started :)

There is an opinion, that people are bad, because they use others and take everything for granted. I can agree with this, but it certainly does not result from the fact that people are bad by nature and just waiting to gut us. It's just human nature that if we get something effortlessly, without putting any commitment to what we got, we don't appreciate it as much as when we first have to invest something in getting it. This is normal and nothing surprising at all. We will spend the money we found on the street faster, than the money we earned with hard work putting effort into it and sacrificing a lot. Therefore, by the way, people who win large sums of lotteries very quickly become poorer than they were before.

But.

How then should we treat others? I think the correct answer is in the post title. So just treat them as they do us. We should be open, have good intentions and not to lose energy for revenge, or any senseless behavior that causes us only harm. BUT. Being open, cordial and kind, loving and honest, engage and committed, we should be only towards the people that are like that towards us. You don't have to force our goodness on someone who doesn't appreciate it enough, doesn't want to and doesn't need it. You don't have to jump out ahead and think that you're so good, that angels are already preparing a place in heaven for you. 

A man who gives away his resources, gives attention and energy to any passerby on the street has no respect for himself. If we have no self-respect, we don't demand it from others. People see us exactly as we see ourselves. If for us our resources, our knowledge, our attention and our time is so worthless that we distribute it to the right and left and to anyone, it is obvious that everyone will use it, benefit and spit it out. And the paradox is that most often we blame the whole world about it, how terrible it is. And this is only our fault. Because we don't respect what we've earned. This is probably because we have not put too much into our own development. If it were otherwise, if we were lying on the floor and from this point slowly and with hard work rebuilt your life, then we would sop giving away everything like on a supermarket promotion. We would soon respect and know that we are a value and knowing it, we would act wisely. That is, for every positive behavior in our direction, we would be open and for any behavior that does not suit us and reconcile with us, we would close immediately.

I will write a separate entry about non-verbal communication, because many people that I observe have a very big problem with reading non-verbal signals and they flutter not completely understanding the situation. But now I will only mention that if someone is late, for example, meeting us, then after informing the person that we do not like this situation and the situation is repeated, we should be late even more than he is. Not because it is manipulation and games. Because this man apparently has a different approach to time than we do. So you have to adapt to his thinking. Or just not meeting at all - this would be the best way but sometimes we care about relationships so we don't want to take too drastic steps. If time is a relative concept for this person, then let it be so for us during meetings with him. If someone ignores us by not replying to us for two days and then saying that he was busy, then we must also accept his values ​​and do exactly the same. Because if someone thinks that his behavior is right with us, then the other way around will also be fine :). Of course, here we are talking about people who are important to us, because if someone who is not so important to us at the moment does so, then of course we say goodbye without analyzing. We don't waste time meeting people for whom we are of no value and they clearly communicate this to us with their behavior. And as you know, behaviours expresses more than a thousand words :)

I do not intend to beat anyone, although sometimes you would like to hit someone in the head in repentance. But let's get to the topic. And today's topic will be criticizing others.

A person who criticizes others reveals one feature very clearly. This is low self esteem. The second feature that we can immediately notice in such people is their unreasonable sense of self-importance to others. Criticism has one goal - to take some energy from others and feel better. There is nothing more that criticism brings. When someone comes to me and, when not asked about my opinion, starts criticizing me or criticizing what I do, I know that, first of all, that person has nothing better to do, and secondly, thinks that their opinion is extremely important to me and necessarily he must inform me of his thoughts regarding me. So if anyone has not figured out yet, I solemnly declare - no, you are not as important as you think and leave your thoughts on others to yourself.

First of all, a happy and contented person will never waste time on such nonsense as a critic. This person has enough of common sense and so much modesty that he knows that his opinion on certain topics is worth keeping inside, because first of all that person is busy enough with his important matters that he does not even have time to think about it. Secondly, he knows that he certainly has some areas in his life that need work and improvement and focuses on it. Thirdly, he feels so good with himself that he does not have to value himself at the expense of others by pointing out all their mistakes. Fourthly, finally, he understands that his very important opinion about others is only important to him, because others care about it on average. And fifthly, he understands that it adds nothing to other people's lives, it's negative and makes another person feel bad. But if someone likes to be such a vampire and suck energy from others, you probably can't do much. If I go to the YouTube channel of the person who tells in my opinion BS, I will not write negative comments about what I think about her, how hopeless she is, that she should be more smart, think more, etc. I will just stop watching it. I can think of different things about this person, but will I self-count myself and watch something that makes me nervous or irritated? And then this person will write a corrigendum, start translating and sending negative comments to me. That I'm stupid and she's not. And then it will turn me on even more and I will start looking for evidence that she is wrong to feel better. And then we will organize a protest against each other and we will beat each other with sticks. You know what? I prefer to eat watermelon and listen to something that I like :). And immediately life becomes cooler.

In my opinion you should alaways be honest. You must tell the truth. But only when someone asks us for our opinion. Such people who like to criticize others without their direct request should try to approach a 2-meter-high peasant who came straight from the gym and has a bull-sized pit bull on a leash and start criticizing him. That he looks like a dull coke in addition bald and probably has a small dick, because steroids have their consequences. For sure, such a person will quickly find out why it is not worth doing it :). He may have to put in new teeth, spend a lot of money and explain his stupidity in the environment. So if someone asks me about my opinion on a topic, I will always say what I think, regardless of whether someone likes what I say or not. But I will never go to anyone and say: you know what, you look fat in this dress. And you have a flat ass at all, and I don't know at all how you can have a guy. God forbid. It personally amuses me, because I always wonder how such a person turns up and is shaking to prove to me that he is right. And prove it! Bless you :)

So the question here is, can't we say something negative about others when we feel the need of expressing our opinion? And yes, we can. We can do many things. You can beat your wife wen you are drunk. You can kill small puppies because you have nothing to do with them. You can eat chocolate from morning to night. You can cheat and lie to your girlfriend. You can do many things, the question is what for? What for and what will the consequences be? And do we want to face them. Do we want to be a pathetic man who shows his tiny self-esteem on the plate and loses all respect in our eyes? Do we want to be perceived by others as a person who adds nothing to the lives of others, on the contrary? Do we want everyone around us to know how unhappy we are and we cling to such ways that we can dig up something for ourselves? The decision belongs to everyone ego of us.

Greetings to all critics and I strongly encourage you to think about your behavior :)

... of how to quickly blow up a good relationship. As usual, life itself brings the best inspirations, which is why I come to you with another handful of useful information today. And in this topic I am an expert, please trust me too.

Today we will talk about how to quickly and successfully bring your relationship to ruin. I will describe a few basic mistakes that I think we often make, not knowing how tragic it can turn out to be.

Many people have a lush life when they are single. Or at least some life. They have some work, friends, interests, hobbies - we know what's going on. They are doing something for themselves, they have some goals, some important matters for them. However, when a prince rushing on his white steed appears on the horizon, then these people recognize that now life is complete and our journey has ended. So the first mistake is to put your partner in a position - the only goal and meaning in my life. Well, we already have what we have dreamed of all our lives, so you can end the pursuit of life resources and finally breathe, right? Well no.

When we fall into a relationship and slowly cut off our various activities, friends, other relationships, then the following happens. We transfer responsibility for our live to our partner. And we disconnect all power plugs. Now he is the center of the universe, and electricity flows from only one source. So he must provide us with happiness, entertainment, fun, laughter, emotions, etc. First of all, it is very burdensome for the second person, who, of course, sooner or later will feel this luggage on his back. Secondly, we lose ourselves and this means that we do not contribute anything to the relationship. So we become egoists who just stand with their paws outstretched. It is often said that the mistake is that, being in a relationship for some time, we are too sure that we will stay in it and stop putting effort. I can agree with this statement, but not completely. We stop growing, that is, we start to be boring. And even Salomon does not pour from empty. Since we do nothing, we do not pose any challenges, we do not experience anything, we have no experience, and in addition we put more and more stones into our partner's backpack, it also means that we cease to bring value to the relationship. And no matter that we cook dinners, clean and play organ concerts for our beloved. As long as we focus on him and only him, he will stop having the pleasure of being with us. And sometimes slowly and sometimes very quickly he begins to retreat. No love will help here. Imagine having someone at home who has no purpose at all but to be with you. This person is starting to bore you. You don't feel any excitement in contact with her, you no longer feel interest. And it will kill every love. Or at most there will be a different one on the side from spending time pleasantly and at home there will always be delicious meal on the table.

If the situation does not change, and the person concerned does not shake off his lethargy, this leads to another mistake. To prison and slavery. Everyone, even if they do not have contact with themselves and their emotions, feel when someone distances themselves. It feels at the cellular level and the whole body shakes with fear. And words are not needed here. You just know it. And here is another opportunity to change your behavior. If a man comes to his senses in time, then there is a chance to fix it all. However, if he doesn't, he begins to be afraid. Afraid of rejection. Such a person feels that the partner is withdrawing, he is absent, without energy. And the reaction to this fear is usually control. He begins to push his partner into prison, very slowly and very subtly. Soon the partner will not look back and stop having his life. There will be fights when he wants to do something for himself. The claims will start. Hysteria. Cry. Guilt (I give you so much, I sacrifice myself for you, I am always available to you and you?). If such a person stopped for a moment and thought - in total why this man should want to be with me and spend time, since I have nothing to give him - then he could play it wisely. But most often, first there must be some shock like betrayal, separation, so that man wants to change. It is often too late to save then. So for now he knows the only method to get rid of discomfort caused by distance - control. And he tries to bring his partner to the same level, that is, that she does not have the best of anything else in life. And then she will be afraid to leave. A lot of people live in such relationships for years. So for some reason they like it, but I think it is not a healthy situation for either party.

Another thing (and I'm addressing women rather here) is being a mommy for my partner. Watching if he ate, took medicine, set the alarm clock, went to the doctor and so on. First of all it seems to me (I'm not a man but I feel so) that it completely cuts the guy's balls. Well, he is a grown man, and here someone treats him as if he were at least retarded. Does he not know when to eat? I don't think you need to take the steering wheel from an adult man. If he doesn't get up to work, he won't go to work, get reprimanded from the boss or not, and next time he will watch to get up on time. And if he doesn't, he'll be fired. And if he doesn't look for another job then, we know that this man doesn't really like working and earning and then we can decide what to do. But playing in mommy in my opinion and in my experience is to save ourselves from seeing a man as he is because we are afraid that if he is not what we want, we will not be able to part. So we stay in safe, illusory control and we don't have to do the work of ourselves. Also, if we become a mom, then let's think about which healthy person wants to sleep and have sex with his own mother? Apart from Oedipus, I don't know any. So we can also say goodbye to lust.

In addition to being a mom, the reverse of this phenomenon can also be helpful in breaking relationships. So being a tiny clumsy child and putting the partner again as a parent. That is, behaving like a small child who is afraid of everything, is a victim and expects constant support in every matter and every situation. Some think it's so sweet. Of course, a woman is a woman, she will not bring a wardrobe to the 4th floor and the man will manage. Women are usually weaker than men and I think men like it. But we are talking about extremes here. So an adult woman may seem, she expects that the guy will be with her 24 hours a day and help her in every little problem. Even if he has his problems, his difficult situations, worries. No matter, he is on guard at all times. I liked to do so, I particularly liked to use such manipulation when my guy didn't answer, I said - you don't answer, I can't count on you, WHAT IF SOMETHING BAD WILL HAPPEN TO ME?!?!?!. As you can guess, we're not together anymore :D. So a person who objectively can cope with a situation, but runs straight to his partner crying  BUT WHAT I HAVE TO DO, for sure is on his way to break up his relationship. Of course, there are difficult situations when we really need support and then it would be nice if the partner was for us. But if it looks like we can't almost shit without him, it is worth considering.

I have listed only a few mistakes that we make in relationships. However, I know that some people don't like reading novels, that's why we end today. I wish you the best relationships, happy and wish you not to make mistakes to protect yourself from unnecessary suffering.

Hello everyone, in these interesting times in which we live (for a long time). I would like to share with you some information about the current situation, which causes everyone to panic and terror. I am not trying to convince anyone that I am right. I want to do something different. I am very sorry to look at people who have stopped thinking independently. They stopped asking questions. And like sheep follow only that which goes before them.

I would like each of us to start at least slowly opening our eyes to what is happening around us, and get information instead of running to the store for toilet paper.

Let's start from the beginning. An outbreak of coronavirus has erupted in China. In the city of Wuhan. What's in Wuhan? Well, there is a 4th degree biological laboratory. A laboratory in which viruses are created, among others. It is definitely total coinsidence. Six weeks before the media gave the first information about the killer virus, a conference was held at the head of which was the foundation of Bill Gates and his wife and the world's greatest economists. At this conference they did a pandemic simulation. Simulation of CORONOVIRUS. The simulation concerned the effects of a pandemic, the spread of the virus and what will happen in turn (empty shelves in stores were also included). For sure it is also a complete coincidence. A few days ago, it was announced in Israel that a coronovirus vaccine would soon appear. When asked how quickly they managed to do that, they announced that THANK GOD they had been working on the coronovirus vaccine for some time. What a blessing in disguise. The question arises, why is it just a virus and not a bacteria? Bacteria can be seen under a microscope immediately, maybe that's why. Seeing the virus is not so easy, you need an electron microscope and money and time. One can always say that it is God's will. There is a saying, '' who has the most benefits of crime? Whoever commits them ''. If you do not understand what is happening, you have to face the one who will benefit.

It is always known and you do not have to be a genius to know that if you want to introduce drastic changes in society, you must do it wisely. You can't say: from today we will control you completely, every aspect of your life including when you poop. Soon there will be an affair, protests, people will defend themselves. So how do you do it? Problem - Reaction - Solution. The problem has to be created, or at least the illusion of the problem, depends on situation, there must be reaction which will bring the society to ask for the solution. And then, like a magician, the solution will be pulled out of the hat. The solution to the problem they created. This is what we are now witnessing. The magician is waiting for his magic trick, rubbing his hands. And we will immediately run begging for a solution. Voila!

When will a man agree to everything and under all conditions? In a life-threatening situation and in a panic fear of the unknown. Voila for the second time. What is happening now? Panic, people are dying massively, the virus is spreading all over the world at the speed of light, it is transmitted by droplet, on banknotes, on hands, on boobs and we should not touch anything at all because the virus is definitely lurking there. What is happening to us? EVERYONE heat the topic round, fly around the stores and stock up, and show those who have already planned our behavior, that they were right. We panic and that's it. No matter how dangerous this virus is, what matters is, if we will believe it is, and the reaction is exactly the same.

Thousands of people are dying. I would like to ask where and who are these dying people? Where are they buried? How do we know these numbers are real? All the information we have, comes from the media. And whose voice are media talking about? Who decides what we will know and what not? Exactly. Let's think about it.

Italy is in a critical situation. I personally know a dozen Italians, and I know that they are very sociable and talkative people. They love sharing information with each other. And I ask these people if any of their friends or family know someone who is sick. Until now, 1 person, 70s. And I am sure that if there were any cases in close or even distant surroundings, the Italians would surely tell each other about it. The girl of one of these boys works in a hospital in Turin, that is, in northern Italy, the most infected part of Italy. So I ask him how many people died in this hospital? Zero. It is true that they have more patients but no one has died (Thank God). So I ask, who are these dying people, where are their families, where is the evidence?

Another thing - why are there a lot of people in hospitals now?

What does the average person who develops a cold or flu do? He takes some dust, goes to sleep, and if he feels a little bad in the morning, he goes to work, because bills have to be paid. And what does a person who has the same symptoms as DEADLY HAZARDOUS VIRUS do? Irruption in panic and he flies to the doctor immediately. That's why there are so many people in hospitals.

The next aspect of the virus. Older people die of it. From a medical point of view this is not a revelation. Older people have weaker immunity, so many things are dangerous and life-threatening to them. From an economic point of view - great. People who don't work are 'parasites' for the government and the people who runs it all. They bring nothing and take money. Therefore, it would be great to reduce their number, preferably to zero. From a historical point of view - also great. Older people remember different things, and when you want to change the history, it's uncomfortable to have people who can deny it and tell the truth. In a word, benefits. Just benefits. I don't remember ever being honored in the media about older people dying because of this or that. Suddenly something has changed?

Mr. Bill Gates also predicted the matter of vaccines in his simulation. Or rather, how to vaccinate the whole world. And not only will 90% of the people line up to get vaccinated themselves, but thanks to this panic and the situation, they will also push those who don't want to get vaccinated. They will push to isolate them from society. You're welcome, the matter is settled with the hands of ordinary people, that is us, and the commanders in white gloves will not even make their hands dirty. But what is in these vaccines, no one except those who produced them knows. But let's all take. If I came to someone with a syringe saying that I have a youth potion there, I bet no one would believe me and agree to give him that potion. Is there a difference between these two situations? In my opinion, not at all. 

Cash - another thing. Suddenly the virus is on the banknotes. But all the other things were not? Our coronovirus must be so greedy that he likes coins so much. At the moment, cash is the only means of payment that is not subject to total control and surveillance. That's why you have to withdraw it as soon as possible, because how will the pieces in the game pay without the player's knowledge? This is the only physical money. Theoretically, online money doesn't exist. You can block, destroy or do something else to deprive us of them with one move of your hand. Anyway, we already had an example a few years ago. It will also be done with our hands because we are so afraid of dying by the virus that we will ask them to withdraw cash. Again checkmate.

Another curiosity that is happening right under our noses - 5G technology. Everyone is happy because we will have super fast and better internet. But the fact that this is a microwave in which our brains boil and change the genetic code, nobody cares. It will completely change our biological structure, including immunity. I have not seen anyone worry too much. People who introduce this claim that they will not do research on the harmfulness of this technology on the human body. Of course not, because without research there is no answer and then you can say that there are no negative effects. Fortunately, independent research shows how it looks. But in times of total plague and deadly virus, who would think of such stupidity?

Last thing for today. Economy. In a moment the economy will collapse to such a point that they will have to do something about it and save us. A global government will need to be put in place to fix it. Of course we will agree to that without talking. It is all for our good.

Listen, you may not agree with me. I am asking you for one thing if I can. Ask questions and search. Check every information that reaches you and decide for yourself what you believe. But I am begging you - don't panic. Someone has already really anticipated our every move and reaction. Let's not get over these chess. Let's be calm, because panic will not help at all. On the contrary. Let us not be guided by fear and hatred of others, let us not fight with each other. Fear  and panic prevent logical thinking. So once again please - calmly and I really think that there is nothing to be afraid of, if only people do not cause it themselves, with their behavior.